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internalised ableism

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Livia Farkas (author)  

First published: 24 September, 2024 | Last edited: 12 January, 2026 |🕒 Reading Time: < 1 minute | 🔗
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Internalised ableism is a psychological construct that refers to the internalisation of negative beliefs, stereotypes, and prejudices about disabilities that are prevalent in society.

It involves self-stigmatization and the development of a negative self-concept based on one’s disability and onboarding negative beliefs said to us by parental figures, teachers, grown-ups and society in general.

Internalised ableism can lead to various negative psychological outcomes, including reduced self-esteem, increased rates of mental health disorders, and impaired social and occupational functioning.

Believing ourselves to be “naughty”, “bad”, “abnormal”, “stupid”, “slow”, “broken”, “crazy”, “irresponsible” or “lazy” is part of internalised ableism.

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Neuroaffirming or neuro-affirmative refers to practices, approaches, or environments that recognize and affirm the neurodiversity of society and the neurodivergence of individuals.

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Masking is a partly unconscious effort to hide or suppress the manifestations of your neurodivergence. It is an exhausting process that many of us do to "fit in" more. Many people start to mask to avoid abuse, discrimination, bullying, harm and ableism.

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Unmasking is when you slowly learn to allow your neurodivergence to present itself and you don’t try to hide yourself. However, to unmask is a privilege, as you need a safe space to do it.

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penguin pebbling

In a neurodivergent context, the expression is used to describe a common neurodivergent behaviour of people collecting and giving loved items to others – "this made me think of you, I think you’ll like this, I thought this was pretty and I want you to have it".

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The curb-cut effect refers to the phenomenon that policies initially created to serve a marginalized group end up serving a much more significant portion of society, benefiting even more people than it was originally designed for.

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Ableism is discrimination and social prejudice against people with physical or mental disabilities. In an ableist society, it’s assumed that the “normal” way to live is as a non-disabled person and that every disabled person needs to or wants to “get rid of” their condition.

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“How many people are neurodivergent?”

Around 15–20% of the population is neurodivergent, which is roughly 1 out of 5 — whether they know it or not.

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“Don’t people grow out of ADHD?”

People don’t grow out of ADHD. Symptoms change from external hyperactivity to internal restlessness, and life transitions often unmask previously hidden ADHD.

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“How many people are neurodivergent?”

Around 15–20% of the population is neurodivergent, which is roughly 1 out of 5 — whether they know it or not.

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People don't grow out of ADHD. Symptoms change from external hyperactivity to internal restlessness, and life transitions often unmask previously hidden ADHD.

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“Doesn’t ADHD mostly affect boys?”

Girls with ADHD are real and underdiagnosed. Population studies show similar rates to boys, but referral bias and different presentations keep girls invisible. ADHD doesn't discriminate by gender, but diagnostic bias does—people socialized as girls face 4+ year delays in diagnosis.

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justice sensitivity

Justice sensitivity is the heightened awareness of rule violations and inconsistencies, paired with an intense emotional and physiological response. For many neurodivergent people, fairness and consistency function as essential navigational tools when you can't reliably read social cues or predict what will happen next. When rules are applied inconsistently or stated expectations don't match actual consequences, your nervous system registers this as a genuine threat to your ability to navigate the world safely. The intensity of your reaction reflects the pattern violation itself, regardless of the moral weight of the situation. Justice sensitivity is morally neutral—it tells you when a rule has been violated, but not whether the rule was good or fair in the first place.

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High-masking refers to a person who is able to mask so efficiently that they 'pass' as neurotypical. High-masking is often one of the reasons...

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  • Livia Farkas

    Livia Farkas is an adult education specialist with a joy-centred approach and a sharp sense for simplifying complex ideas using silly visual metaphors.

    Since 2008, she's written 870+ articles, developed 294 distinct techniques, and co-created 8 online courses with Adam—with 5,302 alumni learning neurodivergent-friendly approaches to time management, goal setting, self-care, and small business management.

    Her life goal is to be a walking permission slip for neurodivergent adults.

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